10 Ways to act or to consider in your interactions with others: What is given below is, in part, a repetition of an earlier blog post. I am repeating myself at the risk of gradually fine-tuning promises I’ve made to myself over years of trying to develop effective and cordial relationships with others. You will sometimes see overlap among the points made below.
1. Be civil in public: Wait for others to finish speaking before you speak. Never interrupt. Give some thought to what they have to say before you say what you have on your mind. If you are not clear on the point they make, ask a question that may clarify what you are confused about. Wait for an answer.
2. Rebuild your social capital: Greet others. Make an effort to smile. Ask how they are doing? Take the time to talk to others and to be understood.
3. Practice humility: Be humble in spirit. Deny arrogance, pride and self absorption.
4. Be helpful: Do a favor or a chore for someone without being asked. When things are not in order and the mood is disturbed and tasks are not clearly organized, ask if there is something to be done, something you can do.
5. Volunteer: When there are significant jobs to be done, one needs to consider volunteering to get them done. If volunteers are requested and you can do the job, be one.
6. Avoid self-deception: Be honest with yourself first, above all others.
7. Be clear with others about your motives: Always say what you are trying to do with anything you do, especially when others are uncertain about them.
8. Find a balance in your approach: Establish a stable position for yourself about every idea or problem you face. Take a position on how to solve the problem at hand. Be assertive, but not too assertive in plotting a solution.
9. Be aggressive in living: Take a clear and forceful stand on all matters, but avoid being over-bearing. Bring others along to your understanding of the issues at first if that is required.
10. Build character in interacting with others: Work out responses to all matters involving interactions with others. Sometimes it is better to say nothing if the alternative is to say something thoughtless or damaging to your relationships. Even though your may be true to your own beliefs, if others are not yet ready to hear what you have to say, take another route.