Judgment and Forgiveness in Rebuilding Character

We judge ourselves regularly. If we did or said something that we don’t approve of we are nearly always troubled by a certain level of self-recrimination. Like “Wow, I can’t believe I did that.” Or, “Was that me talking?”

You did it, now be done with it—you’ll need to forgive yourself, or forgive others if that’s appropriate as well. Forgiveness of others and of you is a very big deal. It’s actually more than a big deal; it’s nearly everything in ordinary social interactions. It stops small problems from becoming big ones. But, it’s always something to talk through with you in a modest self-critique. You have to think it through, know where it came from—see it as a kind of mid-course correction that will take you back to your true character. It’s all about being honest with ourselves about who we are and what we really believe.

Don’t be a hypocrite and keep harboring the same delusions. Improve the fuzzy elements in your thinking. In particular, allow others their own space, self-expression and character. If you have a judgmental character and feel you are often unable to forgive yourself or others easily, it would be best to work on those issues helping yourself toward a better understanding of why those matters are hard for you.

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